I recently attended a youth conference at Calvary Tabernacle in Indianapolis. While we were there, the preacher said something that really stuck with me. He said "Apostolic girls get discouraged when Apostolic boys flirt with girls outside of the church." I know from experience that this is true. When Christian guys start flirting with girls that don't love God and dress immodestly, it makes us feel as though we need to act the same way to get a guy's attention. What I never thought about before was if guys feel the same way when we flirt with others who don't love the truth and are living ungodly lives.
This whole thing got me thinking...how do guys view godly girls? And what do the majority of girls think about godly guys? So I decided to search it out for myself. Now I want to share my findings with you.
Now, obviously I have the perspective of the female covered. I'm a female myself, not to mention I am surrounded by them constantly through my home, work, and even my church. So I think I speak for many of us godly girls when I write this.
When I see a guy worshiping with passion and I can tell he loves God immensely, there's something inside of me that feels a hundred times more attracted to him. It has nothing to do with how he's dressed, how his hair looks, or whether he's tall and muscular. No, it is super attractive when a guy can come into God's presence with confidence and doesn't worry about what others think of him, but is more concerned about what God thinks about him.
So, in case you're wondering, guys, godly girls will not be so much concerned with how you look (although I wouldn't recommend looking like a complete slob because that does throw off the attraction a bit) as they will be with your heart for Jesus. Don't worry about looking "cool" during service because the right kind of girl will love you for your confidence in being yourself when you worship God.
Okay, so now for the interesting part (mainly because I'm guessing the majority of readers on this blog are female). To get the male perspective, I had to ask one of my guy friends, Kris Grepke, who, in my opinion, is one of the godliest teenage guys I've ever met. If I'm being honest, his response kind of shocked me.
"It is more than just her dressing, and having a relationship with God. It's about her knowing that God made her beautiful, it's about her knowing that she doesn't need make up, or need to show off her body..." He continued on to say that he believes confidence and happiness with yourself can only come from a relationship with God. When girls do not have a relationship with God, they do not have confidence in themselves so they dress immodestly and try to make themselves up to get attention so they can feel good about themselves. But a godly guy does not want that.
A godly guy will love you for who you are in Christ. Girls, you don't need to deck yourself to be beautiful and attractive to the opposite sex. As shown by my friend's response, a godly guy would rather have someone who has a relationship with God and, because of that relationship, is confident in her identity.
I don't really have an ending for this, so I'll just close the post out with a quote...
"But when God is there it is obvious, because He grants and blesses us with confidence in ourselves. And that's a beautiful thing." --Kristopher Grepke
